Good reminders. I especially love the words at the end;
"don't give fear your power".
Do you remember the last time you had a mini freak out in your head? Or maybe a full on meltdown in your room? It’s never pretty. It’s always full of concern and often times tears. And unfortunately it happens more often than any of us would probably like to admit.
The constant worrying, obsessing, and over-analyzing can really take a toll on life. Because there is always something to freak out about if we let ourselves. There is always more anxiety to feel. And more to question about our lives.
When I reflect back on my younger years, I wish I had realized how much energy was wasted on little things that didn’t matter. Or wasted on all that I couldn’t control. I would have saved myself months of having full body twitching from such serious anxiety. I would have enjoyed my last years in college and my first years living in San Francisco a little bit more.
Because when we become better friends with that little voice inside our head, and more important become a better boss of it, our whole day gets better… our ability to love ourselves (life’s great achievement) gets easier…and the freak outs get less frequent.
If you’re finding yourself in any of these common freak outs listen up:
1. Starting college in the fall – This is one of the most insightful times of your life. It won’t always be roses but it’s exciting. Let yourself enjoy this next chapter.
2. Finding a job – The right one will come. Keep at it. Networking. Connecting. Refining your skills. And getting the right help. Every job is a stepping stone. It doesn’t have to be perfect.
3. Saving money – Do what you can with where you’re at. Even a little bit helps.
4. Booking your vacation – There’s options. You don’t have to book something extreme. Book something that allows you to turn off.
5. Changing your hair – If you feel the urge, do it. Hair always grows back.
6. Being single – You have your whole life to be in a relationship. Enjoy the freedom for now. And keep your standards high.
7. “Looking good” in a bathing suit – No one is looking. They’re all worried about how they look. Enjoy the beach and forget about your belly or thighs.
8. If you made the right decision – Every wrong decision leads you to the right one.
9. Finding your purpose in life – Keep doing. Keep trying. It will reveal itself through action.
10. Losing hair in the shower – Almost always a normal thing. No need to text pictures of it to your mom.
11. A broken phone/computer/charger – It happened. Fix it. And move on.
12. Deciding on a name for your new blog/business/book – Let it go. Turn off the thinking. It will come to you when you relax.
13. Getting all of your work done – In the time you’ve been freaking out about it you could have been getting some of it done. So do something about it. In your control.
14. Breaking that bad habit – Everyone has them. Its OK. You’ll break it when you want to.
15. Being “found out” – You’re competent. You deserve this. Believe that.
16. Moving to a new city – Wild and exciting. Revel in the unknown instead of worry about what’s next.
17. Accidents, like leaving the freezer open overnight – Throw out the ice cream and call it a day. Shit happens.
18. Pimples – Quit picking. Touching. Worrying. Dermatologists can help. But mostly no one even notices so don’t let it ruin that date, day, presentation or picture. You’re beautiful.
19. Getting a text back – You can’t control people.
20. Your emails – If they really needed you, they’d call. It’s never as important as we think. You’ll get to that inbox when you do.
21. Who’s viewing your snapchats – It doesn’t mean what you think it does. Let it go.
22. The election – Vote how you want to vote. Use your voice.
23. Saying the right things – Your words contribute only 7% of what a person remembers of a convo. Think about your energy and body language instead.
24. What could go wrong – Quit stealing from your current joy by fantasizing tragedy.
25. Anything in the future – Not in your control. Ever. Focus on the now and what’s in your power (aka this exact moment).
Remember, you cannot control any of these things that you’re freaking out about. And the ones you can, you need to do something about right now instead of worrying. Your reaction is your greatest strength in combating a freak out. Don’t give another person your power. Don’t give fear your power. Remember everything is almost always totally ok in the moment. Breathe. And be gentle with yourself. The freak out will pass as long as you don’t add gasoline to the fire of your panic.
'10 Things That Make Me Happy' where stylish people describe ten things they love. I was looking to rebrand my existing jewelry business from local boutique sales to online and I loved the meaning behind this new name. HAPPINESS. So, I opened an Etsy shop back in 2008 and thought if I sell ten things, I'll be happy. 1,000's of Etsy sales later, lots of changes; like the addition of a wholesale website, tenthingsjewelry.com, and numerous wholesale accounts, I have decided to come back to Etsy. Why Etsy? Because I miss the conversations and intimacy of selling on Etsy. So, I've opened a little boutique full of beautiful pieces ready to ship. Perfect for impulse buys and gift giving.
KOMBUCHA + NUTS: Kombucha with roasted nuts (my go-tos are the pre-portioned cashew packs at Trader Joe’s). I love this pairing because it’s delicious and satisfying and easy to take on the go. Kombucha is also amazing for your gut and overall health.
HEALTHY CONDIMENTS: These technically aren’t snacks on their own, but they can turn the simplest natural foods into flavorful, fully-satisfying treats. I always keep the following on hand:Eden Furikake,Garlic Goldseasoning nuggets, hummus andtahini.
AVOCADO: One half an avocado fruitcake or garlic salt. So simple, so flavorful. The healthy fat keeps blood-sugar levels steady and sugar cravings at bay.
SEASONED CUKES: Persian cucumber chips, sea salt, red pepper and olive oil – the olive oil offers healthy fat, while the red pepper gives it an unexpected kick.
CRUDITÉS + HUMMUS: Crudités with hummus were basically made for each other. Plus, they’re loaded with fiber, which helps keep us full. Plain hummus is great, but if you’re looking for a little excitement, try making beet hummus or lemon thyme hummus.
CRACKERS WITH PESTO: Gluten-free crackers with dairy-free pesto. The crackers from Mary’s Gone Crackers are loaded with fiber and the dairy-free pesto is full of flavor and healthy fat. This snack couldn’t be easier to assemble, and yet it feels more elevated than say, apple and peanut butter.
HOMEMADE SWEETS:Making your own sweet treats means you have total control over what goes into them. For the most indulgent-feeling healthy snack, it’s a toss up between salted caramel pecans, which legitimately taste like the top of a pecan pie, and paleo chocolate peppermint patties. I also love grain-free chocolate zucchini cupcakes with matcha frosting.
Adapted from The Chalkboard Mag. Recipes can be found here and here from nutritionist Shira Lenchewski.